The Rounder We Go, The Stucker We Get
by David Gorman
From a lecture given at the Centre for Training in May 1993
Copyright © 1995 David Gorman, all rights reserved world-wide
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Author's Note: This chronicles a discovery I made while running a school to
train teachers of the Alexander Technique. This was during a period when my understanding of people's
problems was profoundly changing and consequently, so was my work. Thus, this article is from a transitional
period between what was the Alexander Technique and what was to become the LearningMethods
work. The talk was transcribed and then originally published in 1997 in my book,
Looking at Ourselves (now available in both e-book and print editions
- see details in the sidebar to the right). The original title of the article was "The Rounder
We Go, The Samer We Get", but I have now changed that to the current title to be a little less cryptic
and little more accurate to the article.
THIS IS ABOUT THE NATURE OF HABIT — unconstructive habits, particularly that kind
of habit known as a vicious circle. That is, a reactive cycle, each step of which brings up something
that forces me to react by taking the next step, which in turn forces me to take the next step, and
so on, inevitably binding me into repeating the cycle, thereby reinforcing it and making it into a habit.
The key to understanding how we unwittingly create and sustain these kind of habituated
cycles is to see how they are built at every step upon an integrated series of delusions which both
drive us and seduce us into taking the next step. What we think we are doing to solve the problem seems
to make sense within the context of the habit, but from a larger perspective is, in fact, the very way
we create the problem and sustain it. These habits are brilliantly constructed in the way they trick
us into repeating them in the face of our resolution to change. Even more cleverly, the way out is hidden
in the very last place we would ever think of looking for it. Not only that, but in understanding the
structure of circular habits, we can begin to make sense of why the habit of 'trying to solve the problem',
of trying to be 'right', or 'perfect', or 'ideal', or even to become 'different' has such a powerful
hold on us, for we are deeply caught in trying to be in control.
Let us explore how all this works, using, for ease of understanding, the very common
example of chronic, uncomfortable 'tension'. Tension is a symptom that shows up in a mostly physiological
way (that is, in body feelings as opposed to in an emotional or psychological way), but it will become
apparent that these kinds of circular habits manifest in every aspect and territory of our lives. I
will start with the nature and mechanics of the habit and how we get caught in it, then show the unexpected
and hidden doorway out of it, and finish up with some of the implications of bringing about fundamental
1 — THE NATURE OF THE BEAST —
I go about my life, doing this and that and not thinking much about how I go about
what I am doing — I just do it. Then, in one particular present moment in the middle of whatever I am
in the middle of, I am brought to consciousness by a 'symptom' — some feeling of discomfort, of pain,
tension or the like. This symptom appears, grabs my attention and I naturally feel it as something wrong,
something I do not like, a 'bad thing'. It is also natural for me to feel that this symptom is the problem
and, equally obviously, to want to do something about it to make it go away — to make everything better
— preferably as quickly as possible. Success, of course, would be to get rid of the symptom and go back
to what I was doing, minus the problem.
So, I go about some process or some act to change the moment from an 'it's-not-OK,
I'm-feeling-bad' kind of moment to a 'now-it's-OK, I-feel-better' kind of moment. Let
us take the example of me drawing a picture. After some indefinite period of working away with great
concentration, I am brought to awareness in that present moment by a feeling of soreness and tension
around my shoulders which (of course) feels bad to me so I want to do something to relieve the symptoms.
Maybe I tighten up my shoulders, pull and scrunch and mulch them about hoping to break up the tension
and ease the pain. I might try to release the tension or relax my shoulders. I might massage the sore
spots or get someone else to do it for me, or whatever...
It is important to recognize that in terms of the habit it does not really matter
what particular process I use (whether I do or undo something). The point is that the unpleasant feelings
of the symptom force me to react by trying to get out of this present moment and into the next moment
when (hopefully) everything will be better. When I succeed in making the wrong feeling (the tension
and pain) into the right feeling (no tension or pain), the not-OK moment into the OK moment, I can merrily
get back to my life without having to pay attention to all this stuff any more because at this moment
it seems to me that there is no longer a problem.
All of this appears to make perfect sense and would be of little consequence if this
was the first and only time these symptoms occurred. I probably would not even think twice about it.
However, that is not what happens to most of us. What does happen is that after making everything better
I just launch back into my life again, but it does not take long — a few hours, a few days or weeks
— before the symptoms are back. I, of course, immediately react to the wrong feeling of the symptom
by doing what I have always done before which to is to do something to get rid of it. Which works most
of the time to get me back to where I feel OK again. And all would be fine if I stayed there, but, sure
enough, the symptom is soon back. Not only that, but over time it's getting worse and what I used to
do to change things for the better does not work as well any more.
Naturally enough, I never question the possibility that there may be something funny
about my whole approach, I just try to find another 'better' way to make everything OK. So I try this
or that method and it works for a while or I try this or that exercise and maybe it 'works' and maybe
it does not.
But I keep on trying, and the symptom keeps on recurring until I get so familiar
with it that I begin to regard it as "my problem". I find myself starting to think of it as an "it".
Me and my problem. There it is again. It hurts me. I have tension. I have a back problem.
If I didn't have this #%@#!! problem I'd be fine…
In fact, what is really going on is that "it" has me. There is an inevitable sequence
of events that becomes established: feel wrong react
in order to feel right so I can
go back to 'normal' life
until I feel wrong again
and react again to
to go back to 'normal' life. . . and so on, over
and over, until this sequence itself becomes 'normal life'. Gradually the symptoms get worse and more
persistent and I am forced to try different ways to 'solve' the problem, but to no avail. I am well
and truly stuck and no matter what I do I cannot seem to change anything more than temporarily. This,
of course, is the situation many people find themselves in.
By this time it has begun to dawn on me that this sequence of events is not a linear
sequence but a circular one — I had the tension, I did something to get rid of it and everything was
OK, then I find myself back here in the symptoms once again. I am caught in a vicious circle which is
like a noose gradually tightening around me the more I try to escape it. At this point I might just
resign myself to 'having' this problem. "It is my tough luck, I have a weak back" or "we are not evolutionarily
designed to do this kind of activity." However, I am still stuck with the recurring symptoms so I am
forced to go on searching for better and better ways to get rid of them.
Sooner or later, like F. M. Alexander did with his hoarse throat, I may ask myself
why my problem keeps coming back. If I was OK a while ago but now the symptom is back again, perhaps
it is because of something I am doing in that large circle of time between the moment I was OK and when
the symptom reappeared (the part of the circle below outside the dotted rectangle). That circle is the
period when I went back into my 'unconscious' way of being; when I am not really aware of how I do what
I do, I just do it. Somewhere in that period of time (which can be anywhere from a few minutes to several
weeks) something must have happened to drag me back around into this mess again.
So I proceed to look into those 'unconscious moments' to see if I can find something
I am doing to cause the problem. There is a lot for me to find because those 'unconscious' moments encompass
just about everything that is going on when I am not busy reacting to the symptom. There are a million
interesting and involving details to discover. Maybe I am sitting badly; I am pulling down and compressing
my spine; I have a poorly designed keyboard; a bad chair; I am interfering with my breathing, etc.
I already have the habitual tendency to see whatever it is as wrong and therefore
in need of correcting, so whenever I find something that I think might be causing the problem — perhaps
sitting slumped over my drawing with my head forward and my neck tense — I immediately begin to look
for the right thing to do to correct it. It does not matter what I find or what I do about it, it's
always the same habit — that is, there is something wrong and I need to go through some process to make
it OK again. In other words all I have done is to take the same means whereby or process I used on the
original 'wrong' symptom and moved it over to use on this new 'wrong problem' to change the next moment
into a better one.
The vicious circle is still unbroken and the habit has just become one level deeper
and more complex than it was a moment ago. When I look into these 'unconscious' moments there is no
end to the number of things I can find on which to practise this fix-it-up-and-make-it-better
means. It will probably even seem like I am making progress by finding all these factors which are part
of my habit (because they are all undoubtedly part of the circle and all do fit together). It's also
easy to see that there certainly is some or other local effect when I fiddle about with them. However,
I am kept so busy that it may take me quite a while (if indeed I ever do) to realize that, in spite
of all this fixing up, I still have a problem. Granted, with all my fiddling the problem may have shifted
somewhat to a different symptom, but, sure enough, there is still something to deal with on a regular
basis. The words may change, but the song remains the same.
Is this situation familiar to you? Are you intimately acquainted
with the little beast? Of course, all the above would be wonderful if you had actually managed to rid
yourself once and for all of the problem and its symptoms. If you have, well, you are one of the lucky
ones. For 15 years I have been working with people caught in just these kinds of habits and for most
of them nothing they have done and no method they have tried has actually freed them. They may be getting
better at 'dealing' with their symptoms and habitual patterns, in the sense of having better tools to
make the change from the moment of the symptoms to the moments of relative freedom, but always they
find themselves back in some similar sort of problem that needs dealing with.note1
2 — STEPPING OUT OF THE CIRCLE —
A number of years ago, as the nature of these circular habits was becoming more clear
to me, both from my own experience and that of my pupils, it began to dawn on me that something was
missing. Surely it must be possible to truly rid oneself of a habit rather than just get better at managing
it? Alexander certainly stated that he had become free of the symptoms which had plagued him from childhood.
So I determined to find that elusive way out of the circle. It struck me (in that obvious way that seems
so obvious once it is obvious) that I get caught in circular habits because I keep going around the
circle. At each moment I somehow manage to take the next step even though I do not want to end up where
it leads me. The odd thing is I do not feel as though I am are taking another step around the circle
each time, rather, I am desperately trying to take steps out of the circle! I thought, "Somewhere in
there must be the clue to the trap. Somehow I am taking the next step in the habit while being seduced
into thinking that I am taking a step out of it. But how could this happen? How could I be so fooled?"
I went back and re-examined each step from this new point of view and, sure enough,
there it was. My habitual way of perceiving things had completely hidden it from me! Go back to the
diagram above. There is one time in that circle that I am 'naturally' brought to present-moment consciousness
— the moment of the symptom. In fact, I am brought to consciousness by the symptom, by the feeling of
tension or discomfort. And what do I do each time? I do exactly the same thing I have always done before
— I try to get out of that moment which I regard as wrong and bad as fast as I can into the next moment
when things will be OK and good again. Every single time! No matter what else I change, that part stays
constant and I never question it. That one precious moment when I am conscious enough to make a really
different choice, I do not change a thing!
At that moment I believe I am taking a step toward the 'solution'. But there it is,
plain as day: those steps from the 'problem' to the 'solution' are the same preconceived habitual steps
I always try to take and are just as much part of that circle as any other part. For all that I think
of it as the 'solution', it is, and has always been, an inextricable part of the habit. It is the warm
and lovely seduction which I cannot resist. At that moment, the not-so-nice feelings are driving me
from behind and the oh-so-nice future is beckoning me from in front and I simply cannot conceive of
any other possibility than getting away from the one and to the other (and I would not be attracted
to any other possibility anyway). It is all so beautifully constructed and so cleverly hidden from me!
The habit is laughing (if I personify it for a moment), "What a sucker, he fell
for it again! No matter how many times he has been through it before, up comes that wrong feeling and
WHAM! before he knows it, he reacts in exactly the same way he always does and then he wonders why he
is caught in a repeating cycle. Har-dee-har-har!".
The whole habit is set up so that, whatever I have been up to previously, the moment
of coming to consciousness of the symptom is presented to me as NOT GOOD, as WRONG. I feel it that way.
And I fall for it every time and react as if it actually is wrong and therefore immediately try to change
things. I am totally and utterly convinced that those feelings ARE wrong and I MUST do something about
them, thereby inevitably taking the next step in the cycle. In fact, without realizing what I am doing,
I positively and desperately want to take that step back into the habit each time. I am begging to take
the next step. I am searching for better ways to take that step! What I also do not realize is that,
in effect, I am being forced to take that next step because no other alternative is imaginable. That
is to say, I am forced to react to my feelings. This is what reaction is: because of this, therefore
that. No other possibilities. No choice.
Notice with what integration the habit works and how much 'of a piece' it is. Reacting
to the moment of the symptom and quickly stepping out toward my ideal 'end' of feeling OK puts an 'end'
to my presentness and choice, for now I automatically begin to go back to being involved in my 'normal'
life. Which, of course, means that I now go back into that narrowed state where I am only conscious
of what I am doing, not how I am doing it. That narrowed 'unconsciousness' is as built into the cycle
as everything else.
Not only that, but when I look into these narrowed 'unconscious' moments for the
cause of how I get bound back to the symptom, what I do with whatever I find is the same as I do when
I am naturally brought to consciousness by the symptoms — I immediately try to fix it all up in the
preconceived way I think it should be fixed. (And I must stress here again, that it does not matter
what my idea is of what should be happening, it is always the same fix-it-up reaction in general and
is always as much part of the habit as is the so-called 'problem'.) Each part of the cycle validates
and leads to the others and they all fit together like well-oiled gears in a machine — an assembly line
Because I have been in that narrowed state through much of the time as the habit
cycles, I am not able to see how the whole pattern works. At each step I can only see as far as the
next step. The consequences of what I am doing are always just over the horizon and therefore invisible
to me. As Isaac Dineson (Karin Blixen) wrote in Out of Africa, "The earth was made round so that
we would not see too far down the road."
When I recognized that I had been deluded into buying into the whole scenario as
presented to me by the habit, I did not quite know where to go. Everything seemed to be 'lies'. To paraphrase
Alexander, "If anyone was in a rut, it was I". I had gone far enough to know that trying to
make things OK was what drove the habit and that searching into those 'unconscious' moments was like
examining all the wonderfully involving details of the walls of the rut — fascinating, but I am still
in the rut. The real trick would be to simply step out of the rut. But how? That is what I had been
trying to do all the time and it did not seem to work.
I had no choice but to go back to examine the whole thing again in the light of my
knowledge that nothing was as it seems. I kept being drawn back to the moment of the symptom. After
all, it is the occurrence of the symptom that first lets us know we have a 'problem'. It is only because
of the symptom that we are looking for the now-I'm-OK-again-all-is-good 'solution'. We never
seem to question its reality because it is an actual sensory experience.
A moment's thought, however, will show that I feel the way I do
at this moment because of what has been going on during all the accumulated moments before. And that
what has been going on in all those moments before is that I have been cycling and recycling this habit.
And that here I am about to give it another go round. Here I am about to crank it around one more notch.
What do I expect to happen when I do the same thing I have always done? Something different this time?
How deluded can you get? note2
It was then that I realized with a shock that the answer was right in front of me.
The way out of the circle was simply to meet the moment of the symptom which I habitually feel as wrong
and not take the next step of reacting to it. To accept that what is going on at this moment is actually
going on — whether I like it or not. In other words, to freely and willingly live in that moment no
matter how I feel about it, simply because it is there. I saw that this moment is just as valid a moment
of reality as any other. What makes me think any particular moment is wrong and should be fixed up?
Only my feelings. Very strong feelings, admittedly, but nevertheless feelings which have themselves
been created by the cycling of the habit and so are automatically suspect. And who am I, the person
who is so thoroughly caught in this habit, to know what is the 'right' thing.
As this startling realization came to me and at the very moment of recognizing this
acceptance as a possible option, up rose the total and utter conviction that it would be pointless to
try it because to decide to stay in that moment would be to stay in the symptoms (probably forever).
No way! But, if I could just get to that next moment when everything is OK again, I would be happy to
live there forever, but not here in this mess, thank you very much. This was the habit, of course, like
a little devil on my shoulder, trying to convince me that my plan of acceptance could not possibly work
— that it was unacceptable.
And I almost bought it until I remembered the profound shock I had experienced when
the insight had first come to me. There was something so unexpected about it that I knew it was truly
new and that I had never carried this out before. So I did.
What did actually happen when I inhibited my monstrously powerful habitual urge to
react to the feelings of the 'symptom' was very, very different than I expected — after a moment of
intense awareness of narrowness and restriction (during which I had to choose again not to react), an
expansion filled me up and the strain and the tension disappeared! I was in a state of wholeness and
oneness with myself and very sharply and vibrantly present in the world around me. I felt good — in
fact, better than good — for along with the expansion came a rising delight and intense aliveness. All
by doing absolutely nothing but meeting that moment I had always taken to be wrong and refusing to react
to it the way I always had before. And lo and behold, it seemed the moment was not wrong after all —
it was wonderful!
Which makes sense when you think about it… The moment I truly accept what is going
on for itself and its own sake is the moment I truly give up to it. I am no longer struggling and straining
to get to a 'better' moment. There is no longer a split in me with one part of me that feels another
part of me as wrong and therefore not OK to be in the moment. There is no longer that one part of me
trying to change that other part to what I think it should be (as if that were possible). Thus, I am
no longer in a fight with myself at that moment. And, as we all tend to forget, you can never win a
fight with yourself — one of you is going to lose and it is always going to be you! It is going to be
you simply because you engaged in the fight.
To make the choice to be in the actual moment I am in is also the moment that I give
up imposing my deluded version of what should be happening and leave myself open for something new.
And that is exactly what happens - something new. Ironically, what happens when I do not try to reach
my wonderful goal is that I actually do end up with what I wanted. All the elements I was after are
there — wholeness, freedom, openness, alert presentness, no strain or tension — but they are all there
in a very different way than I had imagined or experienced before and, of course, I have arrived in
this new 'place' by a very different path, or rather, by no path at all.
One experience, of course, does not prove anything. But after many times in many
varied situations, when I had managed to meet the force of whatever 'symptoms' or feelings came up without
reacting by trying to make things right and instead willingly and freely chose to live just in the moment,
no matter what it was; and after roughly the same sort of experiences had resulted each time, I was
beginning to believe it. Now, years later, I have helped hundreds of others learn how to make this choice
too and their experiences are always similar — at the moment of truly giving up the reaction and end-gaining,
a wonderful peaceful easing quickly spreads and expands throughout them and they open up as whole, breathing,
supported beings to the world around them, present and ready to respond, all over, all at once.
In my own experience and in that of working with pupils, the biggest challenge for
everyone is to meet that moment of feeling and not react by trying to change things. In fact, this is
the biggest change it is possible to make — no change at all — since habitually we always meet that
moment and try to change things. Though it sounds like a very simple choice to make, if you have not
done it you cannot imagine just what a huge challenge it is to actually carry out in the face of the
immediate and overwhelmingly 'real' feelings, thoughts and emotions of that existential moment. It takes
every bit of courage and clarity to stick with this means whereby when your entire experience is screaming
at you, "WRONG! WRONG! GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE AS FAST AS POSSIBLE!" The fact that such all-encompassing
changes take place almost immediately when we do manage to inhibit reacting shows how big a change it
is to willingly accept what we feel is wrong and to freely live in the given 'here and now'.
— WHAT IS NEW IS NOT WHAT IS OLD —
These experiences showed me that it is indeed possible to step out of the vicious
circle. But to do so does not mean finding a better thing to do; it does not mean changing the symptoms;
it does not mean end- gaining for the right solution; and it does not mean that anything is wrong. All
is as it should be simply because it is as it is.
To step out of the habit does mean actually accepting the moment as it is (which
means having faith that reality is not broken and does not need fixing); it also means giving up my
fixed ideas of what should be happening (which means discovering what is really going on in the present);
and it means allowing myself to experience the feelings I really have instead of trying to get to the
ones I want to have (which means realizing in actual experience that if I do not react, there is nothing
wrong with me)!
What then were the symptoms all about and why had they come to feel so wrong? Was
the negative feeling just my habitual perception of the moment or was something truly unconstructive
happening but I was just misinterpreting it. This seemed the next big question to tackle — mostly because
it was there and would not go away — a situation that I was starting to realize meant that something
important was going on.
I began to recognize how much I was learning by being able to see with fresh eyes
the simple and simultaneous facts of what is, rather than the acts of what I could do about it. So I
went back to my experience to look again at the facts. Go back to the diagram of the circular habit
(click to see it again). In this cycle I spend
the majority of my time in a state of narrowed awareness. I am not conscious of how I do what I do,
I just do it until I become aware that I feel very tense and tight which, of course, physiologically
is a state of muscular constriction and contraction. If indeed I am a complete unity then how can my
attentional contraction be in any way separable from my muscular contraction? I become a completely
integrated whole-system narrowedness.note3 If, every time I am awakened
from these substantial periods of being so narrowed, I discover that I have become cramped and tight
then how can I interpret it otherwise? I narrow, I get narrowed. What I am feeling is not muscles contracting,
not some bad sitting, nor any of a million little details. All of these details are undoubtedly happening,
but they are not causes, they are effects. What I am feeling is what it feels like to have been so narrowed
for so long.
Conversely, experience also shows that when I allow myself to exist in any moment
as it is without reaction — in other words, to open more fully to the experience and events of the present
no matter whether I like it or not — these tensions and contractions disappear and I become free and
whole. How can I interpret that except that as I open, I open — in every way? More than that, I become
more open and expanded all the way into that fresh alert awareness of the world around me than I was
before I made my choice to accept the narrowed 'symptoms'.
The implications flooded in on me. If the only thing that I changed was to NOT allow
myself to react as if the feelings were wrong, and consequently the symptoms disappeared, how could
I interpret that except that I am OK and always have been OK — I just did not know it. I was deluded
into thinking that something was wrong in the present and needed to be changed so that all would be
OK in the future! It is important to recognize that the delusion is not the feelings of wrongness. There
really is something 'unconstructive' going on, but it is not the feelings of tension or pain, it is
my narrowed, reactive, end-gaining state. There is NOTHING whatsoever wrong with the feelings. They
are very real and valid feelings giving me very important information, namely, that it is a very constricting
and painful thing to narrow off for so long into my drawing.
That I come to wholeness when I stop reacting shows me that I am already intrinsically
whole and integrated since that is what I am when I am just being me in the present — I am and always
have been a 'psycho-physical unity'. As I stop being divided by making one part of me wrong and trying
to change it, I become whole. I do not have a mind. I do not have a body. I am me — the sum-total of
my memory and my moment-to-moment experience — one indivisible whole. I was just too deluded to know
it and hence was constantly engaged in precisely the kind of habitual reaction that was guaranteed to
make me feel as if I was made up of a number of parts which needed some co-ordinating on my part in
order to become whole in the future.
The experience of all-over release and ease is simply that it is easy to be myself
as I am in the present, since that is what I actually am when I am not straining to be what I am not.
For what is on-going tension but an on-going conflict, a continual trying that cannot achieve its goal.
It not only takes effort and energy to try to get into the next moment ahead of myself, it is downright
impossible (though, habitually, this did not stop me from trying). How many of us have not yet learned
or are quite unwilling to accept that we CANNOT be any different than we are, and there is no more frustrated
trying than trying to be. I feel free because I have freed myself from the slavery of having to react
to my feelings and the tyranny of my idea of what I should be.
By the same token, the expansion and openness that accompany my choice to allow myself
into this moment shows me how narrowed I had been to what I was concentrating on in those moments before
and how closed off I was to everything else that was happening. The profound sense of aliveness and
presence in and of the space around me is the experience (beyond any theory) that I am not only not
separate in any way from myself, I am in no way separate from the universe around me!
This brings me to an important point implicit in the above but perhaps worth making
explicit. The circular habit is so all-pervasive that it even colours our deepest metaphysical and spiritual
'precepts' (and what is a precept but a 'pre-conception'). We all love the idea that we could escape
from our split and conflicted prisons and become whole, integrated and part of the larger universe,
but we still project that goal into the future. "I am not there yet, I am still in this mess, but I
want to be there and with some exploration and learning maybe one day I will be free and where I want
to be". On a larger scale we tend to see our human lives and cultures as caught in destructive patterns
of behaviour and less than desirable moral and ethical interactions. We project a better state or a
more perfect plane to aspire to and then devote our energies to trying to achieve them. Do you see the
parallels? All these parallel tracks — these let's-aim-to-get-better-for-the-next-moment / life / after-life
tracks — are heading in the same direction, and the express train of our lives has wheels on all of
them simultaneously. In other words, our fundamental mode of operating in this habit is 'end-gaining'
and every thought, feeling, emotion, and connection to the world around us will be interpreted and subsumed
into this habitual pattern of reaction.
We conveniently 'forget' what we all kind of, sort of, really know and that is that
there is only the present moment. All past moments are already gone and no changes can be made to anything
that has already happened (much as I would like to). Any future moment has yet to come and will be whatever
it is because of events and forces far beyond me and my control. The only ability I have to affect my
future depends solely on what I do at each present moment. But in our sophistry and our fear we also
forget that, in the most real and practical sense, the future does not exist. We actually are alive
and able to make choices only in a endless succession of present moments. Each of these 'presents' is
what it is because of all the simultaneous events and forces (including my own choices, perceptions
and actions) in that moment and in the previous moments. Since we cannot affect the past moments, the
only thing left is to make a different choice in the present.
Thus, to be able to make a different choice in any present moment (indeed any choice
at all) means that you must be conscious enough to remember to do so.
However, once you realize that in most of your present moments you are not actually
'present' — that is, there is no 'you' there conscious enough to make any kind of choice (you are simply
immersed like a baby in the womb in the content of what you are doing); once you understand that when
you are brought to awareness by a symptom (which is in effect a messenger telling you that the way you
have been going about things is unconstructive and that your present experience is what it feels like
to be operating that way) you tend to react against the messenger that woke you up rather than get the
message; once you admit that the way you react is to shoot the messenger as soon as it shows up so you
can get right back to your narrowed and 'unconscious' involvement in the details of your life; once
you really get a sense of the totality of this pattern and its relentless mechanical cycling and recycling
of your life, you will see that the first step must be to have command of what will allow you to be
more conscious in these on-going present moments so that you can have the possibility of making a choice.
Without this you are as bound and trapped as ever and will forever rebound from one manifestation of
the habit to another, never being any the wiser.
So, what allows you to become more conscious? Let us sneak up on how consciousness
works from its blind side, from how habitual ways of operating restrict and narrow consciousness.
It is my habit to feel that I cannot accomplish the job at hand unless I 'concentrate',
which for most of us means that we narrow our attention to cut out 'distractions'. Distractions are,
of course, just other parts of this simultaneous moment. I do not realize that the reason I am distracted
by what is actually happening around me is already because of my habit, but it does not take much to
see how I collude with the habit in eliminating these 'outside' aspects of my awareness.
In fact, I am the habit.note4 Daily, I am practicing and improving
my ability to maintain a narrowed form of consciousness, and as Barbara Conable is fond of saying, "practice
does not make perfect — practice makes permanent".
Because of this relative unconsciousness, when the habit cycles to the moment of
the symptoms, I tend to respond as if there were no moments before, only moments ahead in which I can
do something about them. The negative aspect of the feeling so dominates me that I am aware of almost
nothing but the symptom and what I can do to get rid of it. These feelings then form another level of
distraction, especially when they become chronic, which I work hard to ignore by further trying to narrow
The same is true in the last part of the circle — that 'end' I try to gain so all
will be OK. As I flee from the symptom I am happy to aim all my attention to that projected future moment.
As a consequence of that habitual striving and trying for the pre-conceived 'good' solution (which has
never really worked for me before), I am oblivious to all else that is in the moment — all the other
unknown opportunities, all the possibilities inherent in my system just clamouring to express themselves.
In other words, every part of the circle fosters narrowedness and favours the known. This is why I end
up being so 'unconscious'. But I am not really 'unconscious'. Rather, I am severely restricted in the
extent of my awareness, which is to say, the extent of my being. This is what I feel as the symptom
— my restricted narrowness of being.
Notice all the effort it takes to be so narrowed and unaware. Each step demands a
massive input of energy to maintain. I try hard to concentrate on my job. There is a huge amount of
muscular work we call tension that goes on while I am that narrowed. I expend an immense amount of physical
and emotional energy trying to escape from the feeling of my narrowedness and I strain mightily to try
to reach my ideal but impossible goal of being other than I am. I am deluded into thinking I am spending
that energy to get somewhere, not realizing that it takes this much energy just to keep me out of the
present, to keep me constricted, and to keep me in the tightly wound spiral of the habit. Day after
day I am feeling the difficulty, the strain, the work and the cost, unaware that it is me supplying
the energy that keeps it all running. I am supplying that energy sometimes willingly and sometimes unwittingly.
One thing is for sure, there is no one else doing it for me and there is no one else doing it to me.
When we return to our question of what allows us to be more conscious, you can see
that it is not a matter of how we can expand our consciousness, it is how can we stop constantly restricting
and narrowing it. We are creatures that already have a wide-open and infinitely interconnected consciousness
built into us. That is why your awareness and presentness expands to its innate openness in an instant
when you stop the end-gaining interference. In this circle when is the only moment you are 'naturally'
brought to awareness? The moment of the very symptoms you love to hate. This is the moment when your
wonderful highly- evolved-over-millions-of-years system has sent you a message to wake you up from your
There is no possibility of changing anything or making any choices when we are 'unconscious'
in narrowedness. You may as well forget about that. The job is not to try to get consciousness into
the areas where you are 'unconscious', the job is to use constructively the moment when you already
have consciousness and, fortunately for us, there will be plenty of times your system will wake you
up if you are operating unconstructively.
If you can then meet the full force and reality of those moments and make the different
choice to allow yourself to fully live these moments without reaction or judgement, you will find yourself
more open and more conscious and present and hence more able to make these choices. Over time and with
practice this will become your way of being — in other words, a constructive circle that reinforces
When I can manage this simplest of simple choices, there is really no other choice
needed from me. As I come more and more consistently into living in the present there are less and less
'problems' that need any choices made about them. Most of what needs to happen in the moment is already
occurring as a natural response when I am no longer reacting. These responses are
not pre-determined or pre-conceived by me, or my habit, or my culture. As I allow myself to open up
I come into direct interaction with the events, situations and people around me. I am no longer working
against the universe, I am inseparably part of everything that is. There is nowhere to get to any more.
I have reached my end.
I am home.
There is a small biography with some personal details about
the author below.
About the Author
David Gorman has been studying human
structure and function since 1970. He is the author of an illustrated 600-page
text on our human musculoskeletal system, called
The Body Moveable (now in
its 6th edition and in colour), and numerous articles and essays, including
the book, Looking at Ourselves (2nd
edition in colour).
David has been working with performers (singers,
musicians, actors, dancers and circus artists) for over forty years. He is a
trainer of teachers of LearningMethods and of the
Alexander Technique and has taught all
over the world in universities, conservatories, performance companies, and orchestras;
for doctors in hospitals and rehabilitation clinics; and in training courses
for Feldenkrais, Alexander Technique, physiotherapy, osteopathy, massage & yoga.
Over the years, his changing understanding about the
root causes of people's problems led him to gradually extend his Alexander Technique
teaching into the development of a new work, LearningMethods (and an
offshoot, Anatomy of Wholeness about our marvelous human design), which
is being integrated into the curricula of performance schools in Europe, Canada
and the United States by a growing number of LearningMethods
Teachers and Apprentice-teachers.
Since 2010, David has been running online post-graduate
groups for Alexander Technique teachers and groups for those who want to learn to
use LearningMethods in their own lives, as well as those who want to integrate the
work into their existing professional work as a teacher, therapist, medical or
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